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Goodbye to an old friend.

And that’s what he was, a friend.  To everyone.  And today, after 16 years, he passed away.

When I started university I got the crazy idea to get a puppy.  Not the best plan for a university student, but at the time was still living at home and after having lost a puppy in someone else’s care one day and having never fully recovered, it was something I was sure about.  I knew I wanted a dog.

And when I saw him, the runt of the little and smaller than a guinea pig, I knew I wanted him.  We named him Kennedy.  He was my dog (I was reminded constantly) but we all loved him.  And we all took care of him.

Over the first few years, Kennedy lived with me, but after some living arrangements with questionable roommates and a worry that he was not being treated by them as well as he could be, the decision was made to have Kennedy move home with my parents ‘temporarily’.

He never left them again.  And although they spent a few years continuing to call him my dog, he was theirs.  He loved my mom and Dave so much and gave up on me almost immediately.  It broke my heart a little at first, but I came to realize that they were the perfect home for him.  They had time for him when I didn’t.  And, though they wouldn’t ever admit to this, I doubt they would have given him up even if I’d asked for him.

Looking back, deciding to get a dog when I was just starting school was the wrong decision, but bringing Kennedy home to be part of our family was not.  He fit right in.  He was perfect for us at the time and always.

Just a few weeks ago, our boy who was up until that point still playing like a puppy, took a turn for the worst.  Dan, Jaia and I were down in Virginia for a week and I got a chance to say goodbye.  I feel so fortunate to have been there.

When you are forced to say goodbye and your heart feels likes it is breaking you question why you did this in the first place.  But I can say, that having Kennedy be part of our family was worth it.  He was a constant in our lives when we needed him and without him, the last 16 years would have been a little less rich.

Rest in Peace, little man.  You will be missed.

February 22, 2010 - 8:54 am

Sarah - I’m so sorry to hear about your puppy 🙁 We had just been talking about him a few weeks back. I’m happy that you got to see him while you where away last week.
xo

February 22, 2010 - 9:05 am

Dan - I remember the little skip he took every 5 steps or so … he was a cute little guy.

February 23, 2010 - 2:55 pm

Aunt Marian & Uncle Jim - Shannen what a lovely note you wrote about Kennedy and the pictures were/are just perfect. Your Mom & “Lorne” sent them on to us. It will be very difficult for you and your Mom to lose Kennedy. For you it will be a link to your University days and to your last home with your Mom. To your Mom it will be the loss of a friend and your time at home as a young carefree girl. Big losses for both of you.

We really hope that you are well and that your pregnancy is going well. Love to Dan and to Jaia

Jim & Marian

The 10 best albums of the 2000s (in my opinion, of course)

Hello.  This is Mark.  You might rememember me from a few years ago when I wrote some silly posts about terrible commercials and a guy who tried to jump over the St Lawrence river in a winged car.  Some posts have been devoured into the mysterious nether-regions of wordpress, while some are still around for your perusal.  I’ve also noticed that a lot of posts I didn’t write have been credited to me.  Like this one about what it’s like to be Jaia’s dad. Peculiar.  In any case, if Dan can keep getting me to drunkenly promise to write things on forgetful from time to time, I could be around a bit more.

Anyway, a few weeks ago, a number of us were sitting around my dining room table discussing music (I guess we had already finished talking about football, hockey and the Wire), when I off-the-cuff mentioned that Phoenix’s Wolfgang Amadeus Phoenix was not only easily the best album of 2009 (due to a lack of much strong competition), but would also easily make my “top ten albums of the decade” list.  This lead to a discussion of what else would be on the list.  After much self-reflection and deliberation, I think I’m finally ready to delve into it.

A quick disclaimer: Gary and I have been having a silly argument recently with a certain someone (let’s call him “Jason W”.  No, that’s too obvious… we’ll go with “J. Wiens”) about whether or not someone can say that an album is better than another.  His argument is that music is art, all music reviews and rankings are just opinions, all opinions are equal, and music is “good” as long as someone likes it. Being snobs, Gary and I naturally disagree, but find it a difficult position to argue.  In any event, we’ve reached an uneasy truce, but just to make it clear, this list is my favourite albums of the 2000s.

Because limiting a list like this to only 10 is friggin impossible, here’s 25-11 without any commentary whatsoever. 

25. jay-z – the black album (2003)
24. godspeed you black emperor – lift your skinny fists like antennas to heaven (2000)
23. band of horses – everything all the time (2006)
22. the postal service – give up (2005)
21. tv on the radio – dear science (2008)

20. radiohead – kid a (2000)
19. amon tobin – out from out where (2002)
18. the avalanches – since i left you (2000)
17. dismemberment plan – change (2001)
16. junior boys – so this is goodbye (2006)

15. mogwai – happy songs for happy people (2003)
14. phoenix – it’s never been like that (2006)
13. do make say think – winter hymn country hymn secret hymn (2003)
12. the wrens – the meadowlands (2003)
11. the national – alligator (2005)

Alright, here we go…

10. interpol – turn on the bright lights (2002)

Outstanding debut album from a great band. When people complained that they sounded “too much like Joy Division” (like it’s a bad thing that a band would want to sound like Joy Division), it got a lot of people who otherwise wouldn’t know they ever existed to start listening to Joy Division, which I think is a good thing. Plus, this album introduced us all to Carlos D, probably the coolest live performer I’ve ever seen.

09. four tet – rounds (2003)

When I lived with my old roommate Paul and I’d play this album, he’d say something “hilarious” like “get out your glowsticks!”, or “yo, your album’s skipping, B”. Well screw him, this album is awesome.

08. daft punk – alive 2007 (2007, duh)

You might think it’s cheap to include a live album on a list like this since it contains all of the best songs from a favourite artist with no filler. Normally, I might agree with you, but I don’t even like Daft Punk. This album, though, is amazing and probably the best live album I’ve ever heard.

07. bloc party – silent alarm (2005)

Bloc Party’s rapid decent into embarassing awfulness is one of the saddest musical developments of the 2000s, but that doesn’t change how great Silent Alarm was/is. Outstanding debut that showed tons of potential. The two albums since have gotten progressively worse (“Mercury” remains one of the worst songs I’ve ever heard), but they’re still young, so maybe there’s still hope.

06. phoenix – wolfgang amadeus phoenix (2009)

And here it is, as promised. The best english-language indie rock album from France of the 2000s – a prestigious honour, to be sure. Since I got this album at the beginning of 2009, I think I’ve listened to it at least once every 2 days, and on the way to every soccer/hockey game I’ve played since. If I do this list again in a few years, I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s #1.

05. arcade fire – funeral (2004)

One of my favourite memories of the 2000s is seeing Arcade Fire in Montreal at the Corona Theatre with Shannen and Dan a few months after Funeral had been released. The night before, we had all gone out to dinner in Montreal with friends at a bring-your-own wine restaurant where we plowed through 9 or 10 bottles of wine between 7 people. We then went back to a friend’s house for homemade mojitos, after which we split up for further shenanigans (I think Shan and Dan went for drunken karaoke and poutine, while Sonja and I went to a club to see one of the DJs from Jurassic 5). Needless to say, we all had horrible hangovers the next day. Homemade mojitos will do that, I suppose. I don’t think any of us really felt like being out in public, let alone standing in a packed theatre, but once the music started, the headaches cleared, we all rallied, and had an amazing time.

04. cannibal ox – the cold vein (2001)

My favourite hip hop album ever. I don’t really know what else there is to say about it.

03. broken social scene – you forgot it in people (2002)

This was my first introduction to the incestuous Broken Social Scene family of dirty hippy bands (Metric, Stars, Feist, DMST, Apostle of Hustle, etc, etc, etc). A perfect summer album, it sounds like a bunch of talented mid-20-somethings rented a house for a summer and randomly recorded new songs with whoever happened to be in the room at the time.

02. radiohead – in rainbows (2007 or 2008, depending on whether or not you have a computer)

I wrote too much about In Rainbows already, in my now-gone 4 part “best albums of 2007” mega post, but the whole revolutionary “internet release, no promotion, pay what you want” idea wouldn’t have worked nearly as well if this album wasn’t near-perfect.

01. sigur ros – takk (2005)

“A non-English post rock album from Iceland?! what a ripoff!” you might think (if you’re still reading). Let me explain… I think I discovered Sigur Ros at the beginning of 2000 after reading glowing reviews of their 1999 album Agaetis Byrjun. I fell in love with them immediately. In the 10 years since, they’ve released 3 more amazing albums, I saw them live twice (including the best concert I’ve ever seen in 2008 at the Greek Theatre in Berkley, CA), and “Hoppipolla” from Takk was Sonja’s and my wedding song – Sigur Ros (and this album in particular) have been the soundtrack to my decade.

So there you go – my favourite albums of the decade. Comment away, Gary…

February 19, 2010 - 11:29 am

EAP - Mark:

What happens if an incredible album comes out later this year? You’ve closed your best albums of the decade category one year too early. There are still 10 1/2 months left in the first decade of the 21st century. Do the math.

February 19, 2010 - 11:40 am

contributor mark - while you’re technically correct, I don’t think many people consider 2000 to be part of the 1990s. In any case, this list covers 2000-2009, same as pitchfork’s 2000s list, and every other site/zine.

February 19, 2010 - 3:32 pm

contributor mark - I found my rant about commercials:
http://www.forgetful.ca/?p=351

It’s been credited to Dan now for some reason. Maybe nothing’s acutally gone missing, just the “author” field is messed up…

February 19, 2010 - 3:44 pm

Gary - Oh, I’ll comment. Although, what can I say when you cop out and say these are your ‘favorite’ albums of the decade. HOW CAN I ARGUE?

So let me start arguements by stating that Interpol’s ‘Antics’ is a better album than ‘Turn on the Bright Lights’ and Band of Horses’s “Cease to Begin” is better than ‘Everything All the Time”.

Oh, and it’s inexcusable that Kid A is so high up the list.

February 19, 2010 - 4:10 pm

MarkM - I would have added the following to the list:

Nickelback – Silver Side Up (2001)
Darius Rucker – Learn to Live (2008)
Justin Bieber – My World (2009)

February 19, 2010 - 5:07 pm

jason - I would’ve adde: Motley crue: Saints of Los Angeles(2008), Daughtry: Daughtry(2006) and Jonas Brothers(2007)

Snow More.

There was a snow storm in Virginia almost 2 weeks ago.  It crippled the area.  Businesses were closed for a week, and without a plough to take away the wall of snow on the streets for 3-4 days, everyone was snowed in.  And I mean, no way to leave your house snowed in.

The Federal Government officially called their employees back to work on Tuesday (8 days later) and today schools are still starting 2 hours late to allow the buses time to get around town.  Sidewalks are still not plowed and most streets are still half the width that they normally are with 4-6 feet tall snowbanks on either side.  All this for a part of the country that gets a dusting of 1-2 inches of snow a couple of times a winter and that’s considered a lot.

My parents talked about how much snow they’d had, but until we got here and saw for ourselves, it was hard to imagine.  Even a full week after the storm we were shocked.

I have to admit though, the idea of being snowed in for a week sounds kind of nice.  Having Dan home with us with no where to go and no errands to run.  Days spent playing, watching movies in your pjs, building snowmen, baking, napping and with no reason to turn on the computer.  Yep, I could handle a week of that.

February 18, 2010 - 12:40 pm

EAP - I’m sure the enviro-weenies will find some way to blame this on “global warming”.

EAP

February 19, 2010 - 8:09 am

Dan - Where do I sign up for a snow week? I’m in! And now back to watching Olympic curling …

February 19, 2010 - 8:46 pm

Sarah - Sign me up too! A little miss is sitting beside me saying hey that’s my Jaia!

800.

WordPress has been awesome.  We started using it years ago and have no regrets.  Well, except one.  We’ve lost some posts.  Or WordPress lost them.  Annoyed, yes.  But there’s nothing we can do about it, so I’ve moved on with fingers crossed that we lose no more.

All this to say that WordPress is telling me this is the 800th post on forgetful.ca (not including those that have magically disappeared).  Anyway, 800.  Awesome.  Most are mine and some are Dan’s.  But there were some special appearances from Kontributor Kris and a few belong to Contributor Mark (who I should mention is poised for a comeback.  Stay tuned).

To celebrate this somewhat silly milestone, I thought I’d share my new favourite picture:

February 18, 2010 - 12:26 pm

contributor mark - yes yes, i’m working on it.

I spent the day with an absolutely beautiful little guy today.  He is 9 days old and he melted my heart.  Jaia’s too.  Not surprisingly, she took every opportunity to gaze at him and rub his tummy or hold his hand.

It was my very first newborn photoshoot.  And it went amazingly well, except that the normally very sleepy little guy was awake for most of the day.  It only took a few hours, one pee pee on my shirt and three on the blankets and props and two breaks for food for us to capture some amazing shots.  I must admit though, very little of it was me.  He was just so perfect that it seemed effortless.

Welcome to the world, Little T.

February 12, 2010 - 10:23 am

Auntie Kris - Gorgeous! What an adorable little man. Sounds like a great day. 🙂